Step 6. Spiritual Principle: WILLINGNESS
Were entirely ready to have God through Jesus Christ
remove all these defects of character.
((James 4:10) Humble yourself before the Lord, and He will lift you up.)
Step 7. Spiritual Principle: HUMILITY
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
((I John 1:9)If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all
unrighteousness.)I group these two steps together because they are so closely related. These steps may sound self-explanatory,
but being entirely ready to have God remove all your character defects and humbly asking Him to remove our shortcomings can
be difficult. Especially if you don't trust Him, can't humble yourself to receive the truth about your faults, or aren't ready
to give Him full control to be in charge of changing you. Plus we need Him to show us those character defects to change in
those areas and He is the only one who really knows every area of our heart, thoughts, emotions, and life's history to be
able to do that. You may also need an emotional healing to trust in someone else's control again, and require a progressive
learning to trust God again to overcome old emotional roots of distrust toward authority figures, including and especially
God. We have all been hurt by the effects of evil in the world, and some of us have mistakenly blamed God for the bad things
that have happened to us, or to those we love. You might say "Well, God let it happen, and that's why I am mad at Him". Humans
are all given a choice to either choose evil or good in life, and oftentimes they choose evil, and many people get hurt by
those evil choices. It is best that we be honest about our feelings about God and our distrust of authority because those
beliefs are there whether you acknowledge them or not, and they affect our lives whether we realize it or not. We must trust
God to let Him help us to change.
So restoring your trust in God is critical to completing steps six and seven, because without it, there is no way
you can be entirely ready to have God remove all your defects of character or humbly ask Him to remove your shortcomings.
The reason we end up stuck with all of our negative character and personality defects and shortcomings, is because we keep
trying to fix them ourselves. We sit there like a little kid trying to untie a huge, tangled, tight knot in our shoelaces
(our addiction), while the parent (God) stands there waiting to help us, but we keep saying, "No, I'll get" and we just keep
waving Him away. When we get frustrated enough with that knot, we may finally in tears and exasperation ask him to help us.
But then when it looks like we have made a little bit of progress, we push Him away again and resume our selfish struggle
to untie our untieable knot of addiction. God is just waiting for you to finally understand from your heart that you cannot
beat your addiction on your own and He wants you to surrender unconditionally to His leadership over your life today, so that
He can help you to change.
Most character defects come from lies that we have believed as children about ourselves, others, and God. We develop
deep roots of fear and selfishness because of these lies, and we try to meet all our own needs in life because of them. The
problem is, God created us to need His and others help to make it successfully through life. When God takes you back to that
original root lie ("I can only trust in myself to protect myself and meet my own needs"), then He can deal with the fruit
of what that lie is producing on the tree of your life (the character defects). He does this by helping you to not only understand
the lie that is working in you, but He replaces that lie with the truth of His creation (i. e. He created you, and He promises
to protect you and to meet your needs if you will let Him). Harm and damage are caused in our life from evil that is committed
either by us, or to us, directly or indirectly. It is never God's fault so we are wrong to be mad at God, distrust Him, blame
Him, or to hold grudges against Him because of the bad things that have happened to us. Satan may have meant what happened
to you for evil, but God can use it to produce good in your life if you let Him. God wants to turn your mess into a message
that can help others.
Some of your character defects may include,
1. Self Pity
2. Self Justification
3. Self Importance
4. Self Condemnation
6. Negative Thinking
7. Vulgar Immoral Thinking
When we humbly ask God to remove our shortcomings what does that really mean? Humility is not just someone with
low self-esteem who grovels codependently to every criticism that comes along. True humility is just knowing the truth about
who God really is, and who you really are, and then accepting it from the heart. Acceptance of your shortcomings not only
requires conviction and revelation about your true self from the Holy Spirit, but it is also a decision to let go of the lies
we have believed about ourselves that don't match up to His truth. Some people think that they are better than they really
are, and some think they are worse than they really are. We must see ourselves in truth as God sees us in order to be able
to leave the dark room of delusion we live in while practicing an addiction, and to walk into His light. Shortcomings are
just ways that we fail and come up short in life from the regular standards and expectations God places upon us as humans.
Running to an addiction in place of God is a shortcoming because we need to run to the answer and not to just another problem
to try to fix our problems. Trust God to help you when you ask with a sincere and humble heart.
Here is a prayer to pray if you need it.
"Dear God, I ask you to forgive me for not trusting you in life, and for resorting to negative sinful behaviors
to try to cheat at life to have things go my way. I humbly ask you oh God, to show me clearly what all of my character defects
and shortcomings are, how they got there, and each person that I have harmed because of them. I surrender to you completely
and unconditionally this day Jesus and I ask you to be Lord of all my life. Please help me to change all these character defects
and shortcomings that you reveal to me, into proper behaviors that glorify you and that help, serve, and honor all of my fellow
humans. Thank you this day God for helping me and changing me; I give up complete control of my life completely to you this
day God. In Jesus name I pray, amen."
Some scriptures to help you.
GAL 5:19 The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20
idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness,
orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
GAL 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the
sinful nature with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us
not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
RO 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, 2 because through
Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death. 3 For what the law was powerless to
do in that it was weakened by the sinful nature, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful man to be a sin
offering. And so he condemned sin in sinful man, 4 in order that the righteous requirements of the law might be fully met
in us, who do not live according to the sinful nature but according to the Spirit.
RO 8:5 Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires;
but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. 6 The mind of sinful man
is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace; 7 the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit
to God's law, nor can it do so. 8 Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God.
RO 8:9 You, however, are controlled not by the sinful nature but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God
lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. 10 But if Christ is in you,
your body is dead because of sin, yet your spirit is alive because of righteousness. 11 And if the Spirit of him who raised
Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through
his Spirit, who lives in you.
RO 8:12 Therefore, brothers, we have an obligation--but it is not to the sinful nature, to live according
to it. 13 For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds
of the body, you will live, 14 because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. 15 For you did not receive
a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father."
16 The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children. 17 Now if we are children, then we are heirs--heirs
of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.