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When you are married to someone with an addiction problem life can not only be a roller coaster, it can become a living Hell. The person that you once knew and trusted has gone bye bye and you are left to face the nightmare and destruction that is daily created by someone who is lost in the land of addiction. What makes it even worse is that usually the addicted person does not fully appreciate the emotional torture that you are going through, so not only do you feel betrayed, you feel very very alone and abandoned. You may still love the addict, but not the monster that controls them.

PS 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

After so many episodes of shattered trust and broken promises you can start distancing yourself from your addicted spouse, or you may just become very codependent and enable their addictions in order to appease them and manage the conflict, but the feelings of heartache and resentment can accumulate and cause serious health problems for you as time goes on. Even if your addicted spouse finally gets free there will still be many hurtful things that happened that will need a lot of time to mend and heal. That's where God comes in and believe me you will need Him.

1PE 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

No matter how much damage that has been done in your marriage God can fix and mend it if you have two willing parties. But the main thing is that you invite Him into your addiction problem and let Him take over. You are not responsible for causing your spouses addiction and you are not responsible for fixing it. God may just tell you to allow the addicted person to go their own way like the Prodigal Son in the bible, or He may just tell you to stick it out. The bottom line is that you must make the choice to let God lead you no matter what your spouse does or doesn't do. God will help you.

MT 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

When you give Jesus your burden and stop trying to carry it all by yourself life can become bearable again on the inside no matter how out of control it still gets on the outside. Know that God loves you very much and He knows what you have been going through. He has seen all the fighting and He has heard every hurtful word that was spoken. No matter how terrible things have become God can heal you and your whole family if you will let Him. God will lead you to all the right people for the help that you need and things can be turned around. He has promised to never leave or forsake you.

DT 31:8 The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."

Here is a prayer to pray if you need it:

"God you have seen everything that has happened because of my spouses addiction problems and all the damage that has been done, and I just ask you right now Father to step in and take over because I just cannot do it anymore. I surrender this whole problem to you right now Lord Jesus and I ask that you would carry my burden for me. Come into my life and be the leader of my marriage and the problems that we are now facing. Thank you for helping us God. In Jesus name I pray, amen".

There is also some free support for spouses of addicted people at the following link: