You may have heard the expression "Hurting people, hurt people" well that is what happens when you have a chain of damage and dysfunction flowing through your family line. One of the things you will have to do to get free from addiction is to forgive your parents for whatever mistakes they made, or damage they caused in you. When you understand what your grandparents were like and how they made mistakes and hurt and damaged your parents, then it will become easier to forgive your parents because then you will see and understand why they behaved the way they did toward you, and that they were only working off of what they did or didn't get from their parents. If not your parents, you can always ask your aunts or uncles about your parents parents. It can also help you to take authority over any spiritual problems that are being passed down your family line. God wants to make you the end of the chain of destruction in your family, and He wants to use you to help heal yourself and your family.

You can only give what you have received, so if someone has not received love, approval, and affirmation from their parents, then it is unlikely they will be able to give it to someone else. God offers you all these things, but if you think you are unworthy of them because of how your parents treated you, then how will you ever receive it and be able to give it to others? God offers you these things like a free gift and all you have to do is reach out your hands and take it. God actually thinks the world of you and He loves and approves of you completely. And you know what? He knows all your past and future, He knows your sin and failures, He knows your thoughts, and still He just loves you, "as is". He even knows every mistake you will make from this moment to when you finally die, and He still completely loves and accepts you. You might ask yourself how this can be, but God sees you as a finished product. Plus, do you love your kids just because they are your kids? Well God loves all the children He created as well.

As you go through this process of allowing the Holy Spirit to take you back to the roots of your past emotional pain and damage, He fixes the damage from all those old lies rattling around inside your heart by showing you the truth. As He fixes you, you become healed and healthy and no longer need all the pain relievers. You become whole through His work and now you can help to give your kids, your mate, and your family good things that will keep them from being damaged by you and thus passing the chain of pain on to them. Your kids will be more healthy and then parent your grand kids better, and function instead of dysfunction will now be passed down from generation to generation. Although it can be really painful to let the Holy Spirit take you back to your original pain, you are not only doing this for yourself, but for many other people in your family line. Let God keep fixing you, and break the chain of pain today.