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"Praying The Gay Away"

MT 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."

I just want to talk a little bit about sexual perversion, how God feels about it, and whether or not we can change abnormal sexual desires, or not. You see, when we are very young and developing psychologically, we make choices (whether consciously or subconsciously) based upon what we see and experience in our environment, and based on our relationships with other people, especially our parents. We are like wet cement that begins to take shape and dry based on its form, and any impressions that are left upon it are usually permanent.

If we have rejected our genders sexual identity, or made an idol of the opposite genders sexuality, we can develop abnormal sexual desires that are very real and have very deep roots psychologically. Plus there are evil spirits that have abnormal sexual desires that prey upon and try to express themselves through anyone that has accepted perverse lies about themselves, and of who they are sexually. We can all grow up with sexual preferences and desires that are just as real and genuine than any other preference or desire that we have.

I want you to think about your favorite food right now. Ok, now try to tell yourself that you hate it and see if that works. Now think of a food that you hate and try to convince yourself that you love it. Did it work? No it didn't, because those desires and preferences are based on what has already been established and developed in your mind and heart. Sexual desires are no different, the only problem is, that food preferences and sexual preferences are much different and there are grave long term consequences to practicing abnormal sexual desires.

Your abnormal sexual desires are real and they are impossible to change without God's help, and even with God's help it will take some time to unravel the lies you have believed about yourself, your gender, the opposite gender, and your parents and relationship with them. The thing that most people don't understand is that most people with abnormal sexual desires don't like having them, and they have already done everything that they can to try to change them and to be normal. Many homosexuals have thought about suicide many times.

So why is being gay wrong? Shouldn't we be able to express our sexual desires naturally even if they seem unnatural to others? What is normal, and what is abnormal? God created life to work a certain way just like a board game is created to work with certain rules that govern it. When we follow those rules we progress and win because that is the way that the game was designed, but when we break those rules the game then just becomes pointless. Sexual perversion is just breaking God's normal rules for proper sexual function of the body.

I say this with no judgment whatsoever, that any sin is unacceptable in God's sight, so we all need God's help equally to overcome the lies in our lives that produce sin. But all sexual perversion is sin in our life and we must accept that truth no matter what anyone else says. God says that it's unacceptable, so we must not accept it as normal in our lives either. In the end it is you alone that will pay the price and give an account for your life, and you alone will bear the consequences. Satan will always affirm lies in your life, God tells you the truth.

I would much rather apologize to someone in heaven for telling them the truth, than having to apologize to them in hell for not telling them the truth. So the truth is, that there are real people right now who spirits are deep in the earth in torment because they ignored God's truth and chose to believe a lie. Any one of those people would give anything right now for even one minute to come back here and to make a better choice. They all thought that they had more time here to decide and change. It's too late for them now, but not too late for you.

LK 12:5 But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear him who, after the killing of the body, has power to throw you into hell (God). Yes, I tell you, fear him.

I'm not here to tell you that if you are gay you are going to hell, but I am here to tell you that you have a God that loves you, that sees all sin equally, and He will help or judge each one of us equally depending on the choices we make here. It's our lives, and we alone make our decisions. I choose to call sin unacceptable in my life because I know that God does so by reading what He has already said about it in the bible. Personally, I don't want to just go along with what society says is right, because society can't send me to hell, but God can.

If you want God to help you to overcome your abnormal sexual desires no matter what they are, He will. But you must accept it as abnormal, and as sin, and surrender to God's help no matter what form that help takes. Sometimes overcoming sexual perversion will just mean abstaining from sex altogether for a while in order to avoid it. It sounds silly, but as far as I know no one has ever died from not having sex. Once again, it's your life so you must decide for yourself, God and nobody else can force you. But there is help if you truly want it.

If you want to be free from being controlled by your abnormal sexual desires it starts by just praying and asking God to help you "as is". Be honest with God because He already knows everything anyway, so it's pointless to pray "at" Him, just talk to Him and tell Him exactly how you feel, and that you want His help. Know that He is your loving Father that will not reject you if you mean business with Him. Then take His hand and let Him guide you forward to whatever help He decides is right for you. Most of it will just be teaching you truth.

JN 8:32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.

The Holy Spirit will take you back to the lies that you believed about yourself, your sexual identity, and your relationship with your parents and others. Then He will speak the truth of His sexual creation to you and He will progressively help you to begin to let go of all the lies and to embrace and walk in His truth. This does take time, but you will progressively see a lasting change. Will you ever have completely normal sexual desires? Maybe, maybe not, but you will not have to let those abnormal desires control your mind and behavior anymore.

It doesn't matter what other people think, it only matters what God and you think, so let others make their choices, and you make your own. It's your future, not theirs. You are just as loved and valued by God as anyone else, so don't think you are less valuable than others just because something misdeveloped when you were young. Trust that God knows exactly how to help you individually, and that He can make what's impossible possible for you. You cannot just "pray the gay away", but you can ask your loving Father to help to change you.

Here is a prayer to pray if you need it:

"Dear God, you have seen everything that has happened in my life so far, and what went wrong in my heart and mind as a young child. You know that I have developed abnormal sexual desires and that I cannot change them by myself. Lord I acknowledge my sexual perversion as a sin, because you have said in your word the bible that it is in fact true sin. I cannot change myself God, but I submit myself to you this day for you to help to change me right from where I am at right now. Thank you for loving, accepting, and for forgiving me this day God, and for helping me to begin to heal from all the past lies that I have believed about myself, You, and life in general. I take your hand right now Jesus, and I ask that you would lead me forward into complete sexual wholeness. In Jesus name I ask and pray, amen."

Here are a few links to get some further support:

http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/home/our_courses.php The Door of Hope course

http://www.exodus-international.org/ Exodus International

Some scriptures of truth to help to give you more support in order to overcome the lies:

1CO 6:9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (You see, these people "were" homosexuals, but God helped to change and heal them).

LEV 18:22 " `Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.

RO 1:24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator--who is forever praised. Amen. 26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion. 28 Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done.

ISA 1:18 "Come now, let us reason together," says the LORD. "Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. 19 If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land; 20 but if you resist and rebel, you will be devoured by the sword." For the mouth of the LORD has spoken.